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Tips for Students & Parents

Talk with your parents and teachers about your mistreatment.

Find out why your child is being targeted, and start working with them on some of areas that are listed below. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!!

Bullies have a need to have power and control over others and desire to hurt people. We are finding that bullies are being bullied at home by their parents or siblings. Sometimes they determined not to be bullied at school – they would rather bully others.

Practice not looking like an “easy” target. Look and walk with confidence. Bullies usually pick on people who are smaller and physically weaker or whom they feel will not retaliate. So practice not being an easy target.

  • stand up straight,
  • hold your head up straight,
  • hold your shoulders back,
  • look into the eyes of the bully (not at the ground or somewhere else),
  • stay calm,
  • walk away with confidence.

Don’t let those who are bullying you make you feel bad. When they something negative about you, say something positive to yourself. Easier said than done, but this is where the communication with your children and positive reinforcement begins.

If you do have a confrontation with the bully, tell the bully how you feel, why you feel the way you do, and what you want the bully to do. Learn to do this with a confident and determined voice.

Think of some ways to help your child with this area:

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Avoid the bully as much as possible. Give the bully space. For example, go down a different hallway, try and eat at another area of the cafeteria, try to avoid the bully on the playground, etc. We are not endorsing that you should hid from the bully ever time there is a possible encounter, but try and change your routine if possible to reduces the chances of these encounters.

Disarm the bully with humor.

This is tough to teach a child how to do this, but think of some examples:

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If possible, always walk with friends – never alone. If you are walking alone, join some other students or an adult and start a conversation.

If you’re in danger, RUN to a safe area or to someone with authority that can protect you.

If you are out in the community and you are about to be bullied, walk over to some adults and pretend they are your parents.

Stand up for other students who are bullied, and ask them to stand up for you. This is where the ANTI-BULLY TEAM CONCEPT APPLIES. Again we are not promoting aggressive behavior from the group.

Try to make friends with others, and make lots of friends outside school. Find things you can do with them.

Develop a hobby or skill that will make you feel good about yourself and that other kids will think is neat.

Make friends with extended family members: aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. Do things with them that are fun.

Be kind to the bully. This may surprise and/or confuse him/her.

If you have tried everything you can think of and nothing seems to help, talk to your parents about the possibility of transferring to a different school system.